Ok i need some help on what to do with a friend of mine, it all started today because i went out to eat and texted my friend to see if he was home 1 to pick up some of my tools 2 to say good by to his roommate who's moving to texas soon. he said that he would not be back for some time yet, and could not get a hold of his room mate to see if she was still there, he could not, so i thought i would drop be just to see if anyone was there like i had done so many times before.

Well she was there i talked to her for a few mins got my tools and texted my friend i had done so. Well he texted me back asking me what the hell was wrong with me. This had cought me off guard and i texted him back asked him what was he talking about. he texted me back saying why did you up at my house when you knew i was not there. and again that cought me off guard because i have done that a few time before and it was never a problem. and i texted him back saying that i went over to say goodby to his roommate and to pick my stuff up that he had been holding for me, and didnt know that was a problem and that i was sorry if it was.

Now i think the problem was that my ex g/f which is dating now was there and she does not like me. i tried texting back to see if everything was ok and i asked him if was mad at me and not talking to me anymore. he texted me back saying no that he has more important things to do. and i was like ok. i texted him to see if we could talk later and i have not heard anything from him yet.

Were pretty close friends or we used to be, before he started dating my ex. I remember 1 time he called me up wanting me to get some of my friends and come over because one of his ex was dating  a drug dealer and she told him she was going to send some people over to beat him up. so i got some people and went over there and waited and nothing happened. I have know him and his family for a few years now. But the way it seams to me is that hes going to throw away our years of friendship away over my ex that cheated on my and her last bf.

I just want some feed back on what people think on whats going on and what i should do about it. I would really hate to see us not being friends no more because of a girl, but i fear thats what might happen.

Let sleeping dogs lie.

But if he's with your ex, he doesn't sound like much of a friend. Unless you told him to go for it. But then you would be a third wheel now.

I don't thin its a big deal that he's dating your ex, I just hope he talked to you about it first. If he did, then its all good. Unfortunately your ex, like every ex in the world, is bitter towards you so its her goal to turn your friend against you. Pretty easy really, all she has to do is complain about how things were in the old relationship, and coz he wants to get laid, he'll listen and buy whatever shit comes out of her mouth. Presto.

I see lots of drama with this one. Before things get too thick, I'd meet with him and talk straight up. You going to his house shouldn't be a big deal. If it is, tell him you think the gf is turning him against you and that he should take what she says with a grain of salt. If he's still angry, he's got an agenda against you..in which case I'd quietly back out of the friendship/communication until they've broken up. Also make sure to get all of your shit now while you can.

I think he put it in the private forum for a reason.

If he's your friend, he shouldn't be banging your ex - you've already been there.  It's the unwritten rule.   Unless it's a 3-way, I guess.  But that's kinda ghey, or bi at least.

I say get away from these people.

Analogy:

Every man has his own pond to fish in......There is no need for a friend to fish in your pond for he or she already has one..  There are thousands of ponds out there with plenty of fish in them to feed everyone.

The fact that he decided to date your EX brings up certain character traits that should never be dismissed or forgotten. if you decide to pursue your friendship with this person.

Passive aggressive:  get your things back and slowly back off on communication until things settle down

Confrontational:  get your things back and have it out with your friend.  After the dust settles you will probably have resolved most issues

Full ON:  Kindly bring him over give him a few beers and then punch him in the diaphram and let him know while he is gasping for air that no friend should ever ever date another friend's EX. That is a well known line you just don't cross and .... .  Let him know he lacks the fortitude, compassion,  and intelligence to make an easy decision deciding whether he should enter into a relationship with a friends Ex. ..... furthermore and lastly,  let him know this will be the last time you and him speak as friends and then cut him loose.

Wait till you get out of high school and realize this is all noise and not really a big deal.

I have been out of high school for sometime, i guess for you not having any friends you would not understand what it would be like having one of your closest friends do this to you. And this is why i posted this in the private section so i could get so help. Unlike some people friendship means a lot to me and i do like having lots of friends, and don't like loseing one to a bitch.